Be My Forever?

So can I call you mine now, darling.For a whole life time?

Most of the people in my age are always looking for someone to fall in love with. The perfect match! Someone who can be the apple of their eyes. Someone who completes them. Someone who makes them feel special. The search is always on. As it turns out in most cases, it’s easier to find a needle in a haystack. But why is it so? Why are we always concerned about finding The One? Is it because man is a social being and he is not programmed to live alone. I guess there comes a point in everyone’s life when we need someone around whom we can feel special. Someone who fills the hollows inside us. A person we can LOVE.

But then, what IS love and why do so many people who love each other tend to fall apart after a certain time? Love probably is the most innocent of all emotions, the purest of all feelings. Words cannot do justice in describing the true feeling of love. It can only be experienced( clichéd I know :p).  Sadly though, love as a word is used so abundantly that it has lost its true meaning somewhere. Today, love in its true sense is misunderstood. It is easier to “love” a person than to like him (her). At times some of us get too eager to be in a relationship. It is not always because we want something out of it. The social high-standing a committed person gets is a lot to be blamed upon. Relationships, in fact are extremely overrated. One cannot deny the fact a relationship is an important aspect of any individual’s life but, a troubled relationship can have severe adverse effects on a person’s mental and emotional well-being. As it is said, relationships are like farts, if you have to force it then it is shit!

Being intimate with the person we love is generally thought to be equivalent to being physical. But is it so? The current that passes through us when we are with that person, the Goosebumps we get merely thinking about that person, that’s the real intimacy. The intimacy of two souls! “Making love” comes much later.  It is the ultimate expression of love but, should it be the foundation of a relationship. Think about it. Among all the love stories we have read or seen, did two people fall for each other merely by getting physically intimate? No! In our age it’s generally the feeling of lust that drives people into physical intimacy. In the long run, it can have serious repercussions on the emotional, mental and physical health of both the individuals.

I sometimes wonder though as to how does one truly fall in love. Does it happen when we are searching for it or does it happen accidentally when we least expect it to? Different stories for everyone maybe. The idea of love at first sight though eludes me. How possibly can we experience the inner depths of a person merely by looking at her (him)? It should rather be termed as an attraction at first sight. True love is definitely deeper than that. Unlike gravity, the force of true love does not hold us back. It rather pushes us to fly high in both public and personal lives. just-wanted-to-let-you-know-that-i-still-love-youThe feeling of contentment and inner calm with her(him)  just being around will tell it all. The reality will probably be better than our dreams. Our happiness will be a function of her(his) happiness. We can continue to be ourselves knowing that they shall always be there for us. All this is possible if and only if we “fall” for the right person. Falling in “love” with the wrong person is as dangerous as riding a mad horse. You don’t know where it will lead you to. When you start developing feelings for a person, ask yourself “if that person gains 10kgs more, will I still like her (him) the same?” The answer will let you know what has to be done. In the end, true love is all about how you connect with a person. A good friendship is the basis of an everlasting relationship. It is a lack of friendship not a lack of love that makes unhappy relationships.

To all those seeking their love, hang in there. Keep on learning, growing, meeting new people and enjoying life. A day will come when someone will make this beautiful gift of life even more worthwhile. And soon or later, in our hearts we will know that this is the One.

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.” – William Shakespeare

 

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13 thoughts on “Be My Forever?”

  1. Some would say you’re acting out on your loneliness and that this post is a way to rationalize it. By the way, it’s all about neurotransmitters.

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    1. Some would say X, some Y. Does it matter to me? No! As a writer I use this platform to express what I feel about various stuff and as a reader you are entitled to draw out any conclusion you want to. That’s the beauty of it 🙂

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      1. But the stuff you choose always depends on your personality and experiences; and how you feel about gives more insights into how you feel. But before a writer, you’re an engineer. Shouldn’t you want that your writing be precise and wouldn’t you want that the writers draw out similar conclusions? After all confusion arises when people read the same thing but interpret it differently.

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      2. Well my friend, the stuff i write does reflect my feelings and personality in general about various stuff. I would like to bring to your notice again that whatever i write is based upon my thoughts and experiences which are not dependent on the fact that i am an engineering student. What i write is not an engineering research paper that that it should be objective and unambiguous. Since my writing is subjective everyone will interpret it differently and that is perfectly fine by me.

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    1. I hope that you are familiar with the concept of open endings. This is similar to that in some ways. The meaning and the context of the writing is upto the reader’s prerogative. I say what i want to say and, that is unambiguous and clear cut but, how the reader takes it , well that i can never be sure of.

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