I choose to write because it’s perfect for me. It’s an escape, a place I can go to hide. It’s a friend, when I feel out casted from everyone else. It’s a journal, when the only story I can tell is my own. It’s a book, when I need to be somewhere else. It’s control, when I feel so out of control. It’s healing, when everything seems pretty messed up.
And it’s fun, when life is just flat-out boring.
― Alysha Speer
So can I call you mine now, darling.For a whole life time?
Most of the people in my age are always looking for someone to fall in love with. The perfect match! Someone who can be the apple of their eyes. Someone who completes them. Someone who makes them feel special. The search is always on. As it turns out in most cases, it’s easier to find a needle in a haystack. But why is it so? Why are we always concerned about finding The One? Is it because man is a social being and he is not programmed to live alone. I guess there comes a point in everyone’s life when we need someone around whom we can feel special. Someone who fills the hollows inside us. A person we can LOVE.
But then, what IS love and why do so many people who love each other tend to fall apart after a certain time? Love probably is the most innocent of all emotions, the purest of all feelings. Words cannot do justice in describing the true feeling of love. It can only be experienced( clichéd I know :p). Sadly though, love as a word is used so abundantly that it has lost its true meaning somewhere. Today, love in its true sense is misunderstood. It is easier to “love” a person than to like him (her). At times some of us get too eager to be in a relationship. It is not always because we want something out of it. The social high-standing a committed person gets is a lot to be blamed upon. Relationships, in fact are extremely overrated. One cannot deny the fact a relationship is an important aspect of any individual’s life but, a troubled relationship can have severe adverse effects on a person’s mental and emotional well-being. As it is said, relationships are like farts, if you have to force it then it is shit!
Being intimate with the person we love is generally thought to be equivalent to being physical. But is it so? The current that passes through us when we are with that person, the Goosebumps we get merely thinking about that person, that’s the real intimacy. The intimacy of two souls! “Making love” comes much later. It is the ultimate expression of love but, should it be the foundation of a relationship. Think about it. Among all the love stories we have read or seen, did two people fall for each other merely by getting physically intimate? No! In our age it’s generally the feeling of lust that drives people into physical intimacy. In the long run, it can have serious repercussions on the emotional, mental and physical health of both the individuals.
I sometimes wonder though as to how does one truly fall in love. Does it happen when we are searching for it or does it happen accidentally when we least expect it to? Different stories for everyone maybe. The idea of love at first sight though eludes me. How possibly can we experience the inner depths of a person merely by looking at her (him)? It should rather be termed as an attraction at first sight. True love is definitely deeper than that. Unlike gravity, the force of true love does not hold us back. It rather pushes us to fly high in both public and personal lives. The feeling of contentment and inner calm with her(him) just being around will tell it all. The reality will probably be better than our dreams. Our happiness will be a function of her(his) happiness. We can continue to be ourselves knowing that they shall always be there for us. All this is possible if and only if we “fall” for the right person. Falling in “love” with the wrong person is as dangerous as riding a mad horse. You don’t know where it will lead you to. When you start developing feelings for a person, ask yourself “if that person gains 10kgs more, will I still like her (him) the same?” The answer will let you know what has to be done. In the end, true love is all about how you connect with a person. A good friendship is the basis of an everlasting relationship. It is a lack of friendship not a lack of love that makes unhappy relationships.
To all those seeking their love, hang in there. Keep on learning, growing, meeting new people and enjoying life. A day will come when someone will make this beautiful gift of life even more worthwhile. And soon or later, in our hearts we will know that this is the One.
“Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.” – William Shakespeare
About an year and half ago when i set my foot into this wonderful place called DTU(formerly DCE :P) ,incorporated with nervousness was the confusion of what to expect out of my college life. Not to forget the disappointment and dismay of not getting through to the IITs. Gradually though things have changed drastically.
College life has changed me a lot. A lot! One year into college life, I am definitely a more mature and evolved person. From being an introvert and less confident boy to a person who doesn’t hesitate to speak before a group, the transformation has come across a surprise to many. The fact that college life in itself is a new beginning, a new chapter in life is one of the most amazing things about it. In a way it’s a fresh start and we get to mould it in a way we have always intended to.
Even since our school days, college has been a symbol of extravagant freedom and independence. This seductive freedom has taught me some invaluable lessons through numerous experiences, some of which have been hard to come to terms with. The world is everything but a secure cocoon that we have all been brought up in. Going to college is the first time we probably get to see the real world. I have learned that not everything is simply black or white. We tend to form early impressions of people we come across. People have dimensions which can only be understood if we spend time with them.
Friendship is not an instantaneous thing rather it is a bond that develops over a period of time. People with whom we spend time or hangout with may not necessarily turnout to be our friends (not being a cynic here!). On the other hand some lifelong friendships are born in some of the most awkward and unimaginable situations. Another recent realization has been the fact that there is absolutely no substitute for actual face to face interactions. Those online chats can never match that feeling of fulfillment. Over time the topic of discussion may fade away but we can never forget how actually talking to a person made us feel.
Another intriguing aspect about any college is that one gets to meet so many people from diverse backgrounds. Some speak a different language, some are shy, some are arrogant, some are funny, some are irritating, some are pure genius and some are too complex to describe. All in all it’s a fun time meeting and interacting with these new types of Homo Sapiens .
Reflecting on my journey in DTU till now I can comfortably say from the initial sadness of not getting into IITs, today I cannot imagine my life without this place in Bawanaland. I don’t if I would have been able to survive in any college other than this.
“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” – Douglas Adams
Sometimes I lie awake at night and I ask, “Is life a multiple choice test or is it a true or false test?” …Then a voice comes to me out of the dark and says, “We hate to tell you this but life is a thousand word essay”
― Charles M. Schulz